True Friendship

This is how a conversation started after my sister's friends failed to make an appearance at her surprise baby shower:

"Why weren't you there? I missed seeing you, today," my sister said.
"I felt disrespected," one friend responded.

Um really, you felt disrespected? About what? You felt like you'd been done wrong because someone didn't take and use all of your suggestions. After all, it was a group effort so you run the risk of being out-voted. All adults know this. So, pull your big girl pants up and suck it up.

Granted, party planning can be a headache. You have to coordinate, collaborate, create, and pull it all together in time and under budget. It's tough work but if you really care about someone, you do it from the heart.

However, after one friend gave a hypothetical scenario about doing something from the heart instead of doing something for 'show', all I can see is that you had no heart in this. At the time, my sister had no idea what you were alluding to when you gave the little hypothetical spill about planning a party for a relative. You said people involved were doing it from the wrong place and not being inclusive of others.

Now, she sees that you felt that way about helping to plan her surprise baby shower. When told about the agreed-upon date, you were upset that it wasn't on a prior weekend that you'd suggested. Those weekends unfortunately didn't work for others. But, in your haze of judgement, you decided you wouldn't attend, wouldn't hold up your end of the bargain to provide a nice cake, and wouldn't help decorate the venue.

Really, so you just leave folks hanging because you were mad about the date? Oh okay, thanks for letting me know how you really operate. Thankfully, a 'real' friend stepped up to the plate and pulled it all off without a hitch. To her, I say, "Thank you so very much for helping make the surprise shower truly memorable and special for my sister."

While this incident did not directly affect me, it did affect someone I am very close to. For that, I take it very personally. I just don't understand how my sister has always been there for this young lady and another in her office building; helping during emergencies, treating them to lunch, etc but this weekend they both let her down. They let their own childish emotions regarding someone else forever change a friendship....a friendship that now seems to only be one-sided.